Sunday, February 21, 2010

Ted Haggard and the Institutional Church

Followers of this blog know that it is partly my own rant about the destructive nature of churches corrupted by money-power politics, and partly my own quest to see the true church rise up in the love of God and live up to her potential as the bride of Christ. If you’re following this blog, I’m guessing you may share my passion about this.

That being said, I have been following the continuing Ted Haggard story with great interest; and if you haven’t, you really should (if you don’t know the story at all, Google it and come back later!). If you’ve lumped this story in with the other famous “church leader scandals” (Jim Bakker, Jimmy Swaggart, et al) that have by now faded into outdated comedy material, you may want to reconsider. I think this story is far from over, and personally I believe the implications to the American church are yet to be seen.

I felt uniquely privileged last November to be able to meet Ted personally--not only see him speak in my home church, but also to share meals with him, and to talk casually at a friend’s house an unhurried, informal, heart-to-heart way. How often do you get an opportunity like that? I’m still amazed by this, especially considering I’m part of a small church body in a small town in Wisconsin.

A lot of people might assume that Ted is just another "Christian celebrity”, seeking a big following and a big income, willing to manipulate gullible followers to his own advantage. Simply put, I don’t believe that; I think Ted is the real deal.

I’ve met my share of shallow, phony church leaders, long on image management and short on integrity; outwardly communicating love for people while secretly resenting them--maybe you have too. Because of my own experiences, I think that my pastoral B.S. detector is in peak condition; if anything, it might be a bit too sensitive—kind of like the war veteran that hits the deck in the grocery store when a display gets knocked over. My naivety in this area is long gone.

However, I can honestly say when I met Ted, I didn’t get the “sleazy pastor” vibe—at all. What I did sense was a person highly gifted in leadership, passionate about the church, genuinely interested in people as individuals, brutally honest, and wide-open transparent about the personal struggles that led to his scandal and fall from leadership as a pastor. To me, this is what a pastor should be, but rarely is.

So what does all this have to do with the institutional church? One of my beliefs about churches driven by money-power politics is that they regularly discard gifted leaders that might be "bad for business". Check the statistics; gifted pastors that love the church are being thrown under the bus by church boards all over the country—1500 a month last I checked. The “shepherds” are being regularly replaced by “hirelings” that know how to look good, maintain morale and keep people giving.

Here’s the story with Ted: Yes, he got overtaken by a behavior that violated his relationship with his wife, his family, and his church; he needed to step down. We all know this, but this is not the whole story. We who claim to care about the church also need to take a look at how Ted was treated by the leaders who immediately banned him from entering the church, exiled him from the state of Colorado, while claiming to the congregation and to the world that they had offered him a “restoration process.” You will more about this in months to come.

Institutionalized churches exhibit a very predictable behavior in times of “transition”: Whenever a leader is lost, there is a leadership vacuum, and a power grab naturally ensues. Usually it’s a group that’s felt frustrated and marginalized and has been building up steam, sometimes for years. When a weakness is detected in the current leadership, any opportunity to capitalize on that weakness and gain control over the leadership is seized with all-out intensity. The former leader will often be criticized, even demonized; the new leaders will present themselves as the “saviors” of the church and proceed to win the church body over to their viewpoint. This is the pattern that is repeated, again and again, in churches all over America, on a regular basis. Ted’s former church would be no exception.

Up to this point, much of the story has been focused on Ted and his sin. This is beginning to turn around; Ted’s wife, Gayle, just released her best-seller, Why I Stayed, and is now having the opportunity to share her story all over the national media—not only about her relationship with Ted, but also about their experience of being very un-lovingly exiled by the church leaders. From what Ted told me, he is not done telling his story either; stay tuned over the next year for his side of this whole ordeal.

I believe this story is significant. Money-power-politics churches get away with crucifying their leaders constantly. For the most part, congregations and church members are either unaware of how this works, apathetic, or powerless to do anything about it. Corrupt leadership continues to hold many churches hostage, sucking the life out its members, and preventing the body of Christ to grow, in the name of protecting reputation and cashflow. I believe Ted Haggard has a good chance of addressing this issue in a very public way; I hope this story will help the body of Christ understand what’s really going on in many of their churches, and then do something about it.

19 comments:

  1. Everyone deserves a second chance. Ted Haggard got caught up in temptation. He has been contrite and open about what he did. He is also very transparent in his recovering from what he did. The church he pastored didn't seem to show much Christian love for him by "throwing him out" without any process for restoration.

    Our pastor confessed to "wrong doing" which was just as hideous as what Ted went through but the difference was that he was given a period for restoration and is now back actively fulfilling his role as the "shepherd of the flock."

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  2. Hi Mike,

    I rarely comment on blogs, but want to say a word in response. I went to New Life during the time of all of this. While I was not good friends with Pastor Ted and Gayle, I had spoken with them and admired them greatly--and still do.

    I still attend New Life and watched the process unfold. I saw the pain(& heard it) in the leadership of our church, I heard about the contract they made with him, and while I did not agree with everything I heard (I would have liked Pastor Ted and Gayle to have been able to come back to church so we could have had the opportunity to be there for them and for both sides to heal together), I also realized that God did not put me in the position of leadership, I didn't have the whole story (and still don't, and really...it's none of my business to know all the details), and as a family member of New Life I was to trust and respect my leader's decisions (whether or not I agreed).

    I know that it is easy to want to criticize the leadership when you first hear about their alleged response. I wanted to. But again, I realized I didn't have the whole story and I think it would be wise to take the time and find out what those particular individuals were struggling with on their end. This was extremely painful for them and they had to struggle with how to handle it.

    There is no question that both the leadership and Pastor Ted made mistakes (all of us are really good at that).

    I have a past that I am not proud of and I was criticized & essentially put out by the leadership (of a different church) when I had gone to them for help. I thought it was wrong. It definitely isn't the way they were supposed to react. But God taught me a very important lesson: I was not to speak out against them in any way. They were the leaders of His church. They made a mistake. I was to continue to honor them. I humbly submit that this would be wise advise in this situation as well.

    Let us all remember that none of us can question motives... for anyone. Only God can see our motives. Please be careful to stand in judgement over "institutional churches", and in particular the leadership of New Life. Only God is a righteous Judge. The church is His idea. I have no doubt God was fully aware that the church would be led by some unwise leaders, even corrupt. (Heck, look at the OT Levites! Many of them were corrupt... Eli's sons come to mind!), but we are to honor the leaders God puts in place.

    There is no doubt that there is a lot of healing that needs to be done between Ted & Gayle, and the New Life leadership and church body. I look forward to the day when Ted and Gayle can come into those doors again and speak to our church family and allow us to show them how much we love them and that we whole-heartedly forgive Ted.

    (One more note: It would have been nice for you to mention that the current pastor has reached out to Ted and Gayle and released them from the "contract".)

    I'm glad you got to hear their story. I listened to Gayle on our local radio station and was so touched by her own testimony. I have never doubted that God would restore their relationship and restore Ted to a leadership role-I believed that from day one. Let Ted's story of restoration be Ted's---without criticizing anyone else. The Holy Spirit will convict those that need to be convicted, and God has a way of making things right in His way, in His time. Please focus on the changes God has made in Ted's life and the redemption found there. That is where the gospel comes to life.

    I believe there will be a time when it is appropriate to bring in the story of the struggle with the church leadership, but not until healing has taken place and the story is complete.

    With respect,

    Laura
    Colorado Springs

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  3. Mike Barden,

    Sir you only have one side of the story, Mr. Haggard's. See if you can interview one of the four overseers (set up by Ted) and get their side of it before you make a call like the one you have posted. You don't have all the facts. I believe it's Biblical to speak with both sides before making this kind of judgement call.

    Just keepin' it real Mr. Barden.

    John Olson
    Colorado Springs, CO

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  4. It's very difficult for me to see the church as a "family". The way that it is structured politically and money-powered discision making tactics. In your "family" you may have people with all kinds of problems. You normally reach out to help even when they are not asking. You don't cast them from the family because they are born into the family and cannot be separated except by death. I do not like the institutionalized church.

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  5. laura i agree with every word you typed and know that everything happended for a reason and it was all part of Gods master plan.. I will back new life church 100% forever it is my church family and i will pray for mike and ted as if he be with you then who be against you.. thanks laura please find me and add me as a friend.. frankie aka jackie scofield..

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  6. Mike,
    Can't help but sense that your assertions are somewhat guided by a predisposed view of negative church government without a full understanding of the decisions made at that time. You have only heard one side of the story. Consider being more cautious of your judgments to New Life.
    Justin

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  7. Mike, I appreciate your blog. I was a member of the New Life Hospitality Staff during Ted's tenure as the leader of the church. Being a newly restored Christian, it was like sitting too close at the ballet, and I developed a bad taste in my mouth for the institutionalized church. However, I have no resentment toward Ted or his family, and in fact I identify with the children in particular. I am thrilled to see the healing power of the love of Jesus in their lives; it offers hope for many broken/breaking families. The book of Job also comes to mind. I believe God is giving the Haggard family a tremendous opportunity to minister to people in pain or crises. Mike, I agree with your assessment of Ted's integrity and heart for people. As a member of the staff, I was sometimes able to do work at the parsonage, on occasion even with Ted or some of the family members. Mowing the lawn with Jonathon's help is still a fond memory of my experience at New Life. (Jonathon is Ted's and Gayle's son). Sadly, people tend to follow people while claiming to follow God. Often a pastor is put on a pedestal and expected to be blameless. Only Jesus Christ was blameless, and for some, a "flawed" pastor may help them keep that very thought in mind. This spiritual "hero worship" is what causes such a backlash with congregations and make them easy prey for anyone with semi-political aspirations and a silver tongue. It is a tricky line Ted must walk (should he choose); to expose {money-power-politics} churches without portraying himself as bitter or vindictive. (I do NOT assume he's going to write a book over the ordeal and bad-mouth particular church leadership). I believe this would cause a distraction to the real message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. This political bickering is a device of the devil to distract Christians and get them to not act like Christ. It is an open invitation for legalism and false prophets to enter the church. I pray that God provides clear guidance and appropriate ministry opportunity for Ted, Gayle, and the rest of their great family!

    Aric Stahly, Colorado Springs.

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  8. Hi Mike,

    I posted a thought yesterday concerning your above comments. Are you only going to post the comments that are in agreement with you? If so, you ought to edit the section right above this block that says, "Post a Comment Agree? Disagree? Write your thoughts here. My comment politely disagreed with you but evidently the truth was a little too harsh for you.

    John Olson
    Colorado Springs, CO

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  9. Hi everyone, thanks for your thoughts. It is true I don't know every detail, nor am I qualified to be a judge in this situation--I am clearly a distant outsider. Still, this is my viewpoint on the situation, and you are free to agree or disagree. I am observing a pattern I've seen over the course of 20+ years of ministry leadership, and how utterly consistent, even predictable, this pattern has become in institutionalized church leadership structures. In this particular case, time will tell. I hope with Laura that there can be healing--my experience informs me otherwise, but in that case I would be happy to be proven wrong.

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  10. I've lived in Colo Spgs since 96. When I arrived Ted and New Life were going strong and services were positive. I enjoyed those times interacting with all the people. I still sneak up there and hang out in the lobby before, during, and after the services just to meet old friends, renew friendships and make new ones.

    By the time I arrived I had already attended over 5,000 church services, and was frankly burned out with institutional churches and services. I can now rarely attend a church service and feel good about it. I do not like church as a spectator sport and don't like playing that role. To look at the rows of pews and chairs where passive people sit makes me ill. I know how rarely Jesus Himself did that--He was so much more about doing than talking.

    Then Jesus began highlighting to me a few key verses in Matt 20 and 23, like "The rulers of the gentiles Lord it over, it must NEVER be so among you." So much for cult leaders.

    In Matt 23 He added, that we are not to allow anyone to call us Teachers, Fathers, Lords, Rabbis or whatevers, but "you are all brothers." That's what He said! Why are these and the Be-attitudes some of the least preached messages? They don't fit the way we do church in America, where church is a business, a theater, a spectator sport.

    Study narcissism. People with N tendancies, like so many American's, love following narcissistic, ego-flaunting and ego-building leaders, who all too often hog the stage and make it into a show about them. Study narcissism. It all too often applies to both leaders and followers (see I Sam 8). Now we have a President like that. We'll see where that goes.

    Jesus told us where that kind of thing goes in Matt 23:10-12: "Neither be called masters, for one is Your Master, even Christ. But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant. And whosoever shall exalt himself (by being top dog) shall be abased; and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted." I think this explains why some fall--God does it! Why? Because it moves Christ off the stage and replaces Him with what in essence become other Christs.

    I have looked all through the New Testament and the one man leader of a local church model isn't in there. The word pastor is only used a couple of times, the main one being in Eph 4, where it is used only in the context of a team of Apostle, Prophet, Evangelist, Pastor and Teacher, and where the goal is to live and mature everyone.

    Then I looked at the salutations at the start of every single book in the New Testament. Not a single one is addressed to anything like a head pastor--it's always to the body of believers, or to a team of elders.

    And elders in the Bible are older. Gene Edwards did a study on how old Timothy was when Paul wrote him not to let anyone despise him for his youth--around 49 years old!

    Time to move to a Kingdom Community model, where age and wisdom means more than flash and dash, and where community has some say over the flash and dash, and where teams of elders have real power, which they exercise like wise and seasoned parents and grandparents, mostly by their wise and gentle counsel and examples, and where talented public speakers and leaders are allowed to use their gifts but within limits--as part of teams rather than sole leaders. The Moses model is dead. A team of elders is much more stable and beautiful over time.

    Those are the lessons I learned watching Ted. I love him, I care about him as my brother. That should be the way his life proceeds--as a brother among brothers. I hope and pray that for us all.

    PS Don't local Mormon stakes operate like this and they seem to be doing pretty well. Haven't heard of any fallen leaders among them making the news!

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  11. Dear Anonymous, I agree with your thoughts about singular "celebrity" vs. plural leadership, but that's not what I'm talking about. Animal Farm had a group leading them too. Natural, healthy leadership is about empowering the community and working through issues as equals in a relational way. Institutional leadership is about controlling the organization--damage control, PR, etc. from the top down.

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  12. The Bible repeatedly encourages the questioning of authenticity, authority, and testing all things.
    It seems that unless one hears an audible voice from heaven, the church is terrified to do so in the american church. I would argue that more harm has come from "good people doing nothing" (or good people afraid to speak against God's anointed) than not.
    And great read by the way (in regards to the blog).

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  13. I'm not trying to comment either way as to how well the rest of the leadership handled Ted's scandal, because to me it is somewhat immaterial. I simply don't see what happened with him as a matter of a one-time "slip up". Let's get real here. There are certain things that you don't just "stumble into" accidentally one lazy afternoon. This sin was one that had to have time to grow, to be fed, to be cultivated behind closed doors for some time. This means that during that whole time, Ted was leading a double-life. He was pretending to lead people in the ways of Christ, while all the while, he was denying Him in private. To me, that is a more serious deal than the specific "incident" which garnered so much attention.

    But I must add that my initial reaction to Ted Haggard was strikingly negative, before any of the stuff about the scandal broke. I once saw a clip of him hanging out in front of the church, chatting with some guys as they were being filmed, about how Christians have the best sex lives. Ted starts asking the dudes standing around how often they 'do it' with their wives, and if their wives climaxed every time. It was absolutely appalling. That one tidbit alone was enough to show that something really off was going on. Leaders in the church shouldn't be hanging out talking like guys in a locker room, even if they try and put a spritualized spin on it...

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  14. I'm not trying to comment either way as to how well the rest of the leadership handled Ted's scandal, because to me it is somewhat immaterial. I simply don't see what happened with him as a matter of a one-time "slip up". Let's get real here. There are certain things that you don't just "stumble into" accidentally one lazy afternoon. This sin was one that had to have time to grow, to be fed, to be cultivated behind closed doors for some time. This means that during that whole time, Ted was leading a double-life. He was pretending to lead people in the ways of Christ, while all the while, he was denying Him in private. To me, that is a more serious deal than the specific "incident" which garnered so much attention.

    But I must add that my initial reaction to Ted Haggard was strikingly negative, before any of the stuff about the scandal broke. I once saw a clip of him hanging out in front of the church, chatting with some guys as they were being filmed, about how Christians have the best sex lives. Ted starts asking the dudes standing around how often they 'do it' with their wives, and if their wives climaxed every time. It was absolutely appalling. That one tidbit alone was enough to show that something really off was going on. Leaders in the church shouldn't be hanging out talking like guys in a locker room, even if they try and put a spritualized spin on it...

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  15. Tell Ted not to worry, GOD have the last say in everything. Keep the faith for GOD is good and faithful. Stay in the WORD.

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  16. So why don't you write anymore???

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  17. I'm trying! Still catching up from our summer...stay posted...

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  18. Sadly, the dirty little secret is that our culture's "traditional" church has taken on the same corporate-capitalist prosperity-mentality that erodes our nation's fabric away today.

    Laymen and leaders alike are regularly sacrificed, vehemently pursued, slandered and ridiculed rather than confronted, corrected, held accountable and restored as taught in Scripture.

    Too often, the result is absolute destruction of both lives and faith. I served sixteen years founding and developing a mutimillion dollar Florida ministry. When I gently confronted the CEO-Pastor about appearances of corporate asset diversion, I was summarily fired without severance, my family was thrown out and I'm pursued to this day, More tragically, an Associate Pastor discovered the same issue two years later, suffered the same result and commited suicide.

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  19. Pastor: Jerome LeMontOctober 26, 2011 at 9:01 PM

    Ted blew it.
    This happens when accountability goes out the window.
    He became the big alpha Dog and all others became afraid to challenge Him.
    Ted lost sight of what it was all about and followed the other god of the most high who now owns His reputation and respect.
    What would He say to the young boy who wanted to be like him in the Jesus Camp movie.
    Yes we see it again! the devil has nailed and discouraged young and old Cristians alike and Ted is his hammer.

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